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Gears of thought started churning when I got (yet to be updated) mail from my Friend, and I started to ponder...
I looked up the meaning of ideal as the webster dictionary states.
1: existing as an archetypal idea
2 a: existing as a mental image or in fancy or imagination only ;
b.broadly : lacking practicality
c: relating to or constituting mental images, ideas, or conceptions
I liked 2b. the best.
“Ideal” though seemingly absolute, is hardly so. Especially when coupled with the word “wife” or “husband”. Over the years, generations , society and the media, have created a solid mold for an “ideal wife” and anything outside the mold is perceived to be non ideal, not necessary bad of course.
I believe, as the pieces of a jigsaw, no piece by themselves can have a label of perfection, but it’s the picture that they make together. That is the metaphor I use when describing a marriage. It is the couple that can make their marriage an ideal picture for themselves. “Compatibility is not overrated".
Would you call a wife ideal if she does not empty the dishwasher or load the washer/dryer as her husband loves to do it? ( you would sure call her lucky).
How about the husband, if he likes taking it slow when his wife is earning enough and willingly so?
Well, at least the dictionary tends to agree "its all in the mind" :)
ponder on !!
5 comments:
I guess that's the whole deal with ideals - you get to define...
But - none the less it's the hope of achieving the "Ideal" - be it in any meaning or form is what keeps life going...
In Summary:
The ideal is what we want,a compromise is what we get and hope is what keeps us happy
with that compromise.
Sometimes you don't know what your ideals are till you find yourself comparing, you and your ideals..Which is what I discovered..
Hi Muse,
Aptly put, if it were our "ideal"...I am waiting for V and J to put up the questions on their blog...I did not do so as the original questions were their ideas.
V, J, -> I started multiple times to answer those questions, but everytime I ended up questioning the basic idea which lead to this post of mine and could not get anything down for your questionnaire.. Sorry about that :(
Thakore, in terms of our questionnaire, I guess what we were aiming to differentiate was what you thought you ought to be doing in your wife role as opposed to what you were doing in reality. While many things maybe the same ("ideal" so to speak), some others aren't. And we discover that only when pondering it over a random instance like this one. Glad you pondered enough to write a post about it. Time to add a twist to your thought and respond to our questions (or reply back to all of us voicing your difference of opinions/concerns). Would love to hear from you soon!
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