The ideals.

You've got mail !!

Gears of thought started churning when I got (yet to be updated) mail from my Friend, and I started to ponder...

I looked up the meaning of ideal as the webster dictionary states.

1: existing as an archetypal idea
2 a: existing as a mental image or in fancy or imagination only ;
b.broadly : lacking practicality
c: relating to or constituting mental images, ideas, or conceptions

I liked 2b. the best.

“Ideal” though seemingly absolute, is hardly so. Especially when coupled with the word “wife” or “husband”. Over the years, generations , society and the media, have created a solid mold for an “ideal wife” and anything outside the mold is perceived to be non ideal, not necessary bad of course.

I believe, as the pieces of a jigsaw, no piece by themselves can have a label of perfection, but it’s the picture that they make together. That is the metaphor I use when describing a marriage. It is the couple that can make their marriage an ideal picture for themselves. “Compatibility is not overrated".

Would you call a wife ideal if she does not empty the dishwasher or load the washer/dryer as her husband loves to do it? ( you would sure call her lucky).

How about the husband, if he likes taking it slow when his wife is earning enough and willingly so?

Well, at least the dictionary tends to agree "its all in the mind" :)

ponder on !!